“If I were in the cities, I would totally do this.” A friend of mine from back in Grand Forks messaged me a public Facebook event taking place at Brass Knuckle Tattoo later that month. “She persisted” tattoos for $75 as a fundraiser for women’s issues on February 23.
I loved it. It was so simple, beautiful, and strong. My finances were sparse at the time, so $75 felt like quite a bit of money. However, since about $50 of that would go to a group supporting pro-choice women politicians (and women, or really any marginalized group, need all the political support we/they can get during this administration of president-rape-culture.) The tattoo artists were donating their time, and worked for hours with hardly any breaks–all tattoos were done at cost.
So, after a friend of mine called me from the shop that morning, asking if I wanted to get on the wait list–I said impulsively said yes. Three of us total were added to the list.
I was no. 68.
I didn’t expect the amount of participants or publicity the event drew. The most interesting part to me, was the impressively antagonistic comments people made–about me, about all of us–women (and a couple men) they knew nothing about. Over 100 people they knew nothing about. Yet, the anonymity of the internet made it so easy to make cruel, insulting, sexist, sweeping generalized statements–about a whole group of people. Yet the ability to so quickly express unsolicited judgement felt indicative of the larger problem.
The main comment I remember (although, definitely not the worst), was a man posting something along the lines of–‘great, now these women have labels. I can tell you, if I were an employer I wouldn’t hire them, you know they will be trouble makers’
I don’t reply to hostile comments, engaging with someone that narrow minded is a waste of time. There is never a winner. That being said, I’m glad that one woman did take the time to articulately reply. Again, I don’t remember her exact wording, but she basically responded–‘I didn’t get a tattoo, but I support them. Isn’t that the whole problem? That you view a woman wanting equality as a “trouble maker”?’
I have never considered myself a trouble maker. Ask my mom. Or my boss. I’m about the most rule abiding human ever. But if taking minimal action to draw attention to systemic gender inequality is making trouble–then, yep. I’m pretty much a badass.
Tell your friends.
Another outlets also covered the event:
• The Hill: